Real talk, solid truth & practical strategies

Everyone struggles with the question, “Who am I?”

I am one of the fortunate few who can answer that question with no hesitation. It brings me great joy to help others to develop a similar, shatterproof confidence that highlights who they truly are.

20 years as a life coach, counselor in private practice, facilitator, speaker and organizational development consultant have taught me a few things about what makes communication great and how to both choose, and change, one’s path. It’s all about discovering the truth about yourself and then learning to love it.

I use my whole self… all of my diverse experience, my truest heart, and my love for strategic thinking.

My clients are ready to make the very best from what they have on the way to building an even greater life.

Everyone makes choices from unconscious expectations that lead to ongoing struggles and the dreaded ‘why is it always like this!’ pattern. By listening deeply, I can bring those expectations, and their results, to light. One of my favorite clients once said that she knew she was in the right place when I would not let her get away with anything. That ‘productive tension’ is what leads to relief, resolution and reward.  

From it, you gain a fresh perspective, deep understanding, and a genuine curiosity about how your life can be great.

I love my work so much, and the best part of serving authentically is that I get to see the light go on, true grit come forward, and ultimately, the joy that comes from letting go of everything that no longer works for you. It is a genuine delight.

In times of great challenge, it is hard to imagine what it will take to get to the other side, much less,  just how you want your life to be once the worst is over.

That is where I come in. Together, we create a map, shine a light and get a move on!

Listening Deeply

Here is a hard truth.

Nearly everyone you meet is confused.

Confused about why they think what they think and about what it means to be them in this world.

You hear…and maybe believe…stuff like this (I’m lazy. I’m not lovable. I’m a fraud. I’m always. It never. They won’t.) all the time, right?

It’s not that it’s nuts to think these things. You learned them for a reason. All of this confusion causes so much pain and struggle, and I believe that is what gets in the way of adding your true value to this world.

Clearing up that confusion is what gets me up every day, and I believe me, it is simpler than you think.

Once you know who you really are (rather than what you’ve heard), every decision that comes your way is SO much easier to make. Whatever is in front of you either fits to your purpose, or it does not!

I love making the world a better place by helping people, couples, teams and organizations get beyond simply existing, to live happier, healthier and more productive lives.

When I was a kid, adults called me Crusader Rabbit because I was always championing a cause, trying to make things better.

Now, I’m called ‘Compassionately Intolerant.’

What that means is that I care too much for you to let you stay stuck.

With your courage, and my experience, we put together a set of powerful, positive, and above all else, practical tools to get relief from your struggles of the past and to move forward into the life you’ve always wanted.

How do you answer the question. “What is my reason for being?”

If you don’t have an answer, it may be time to find one. Your mission is the structure into which all your patterns fit and by which you order all your steps.

Given what you know about me so far, what do you think mine might be?

Well, even in my darkest moments, when the stress is crushing and my heart is heavy, no matter what the circumstance, I can tell you with confidence that my mission is this:

“I am meant to teach people the truth about themselves and how learn to love it.”

By living my mission, I strive to add to the sum total of human happiness…and, by extension, to reduce the sum total of human suffering.

My Life Journey

The most asked question in my life is:

“How did you get here?”

There are several answers…

1) I traveled a hard road and, along the way, learned to help others find contentment.

2) I walked from LA to DC… Really!

3) Lots of experience and education.

4) Finding the best in what is?

I got into the helping professions for one specific reason; I know what it takes to go from bearing the heavy burdens of the past to living a life of joy, free from limiting habits and fears.

You’ve heard stories like mine on Oprah and watched them in very sad movies.

Thankfully, I survived extreme conditions in my early years by developing an ability to listen closely, empathize deeply, forgive completely, and to use all of what happens to each of us to its very best advantage. The truth is, you don’t have to come from a good background to have a great life. I have the proof and I am the proof.

Walking My Talk

It’s true! In 1986, I was part of a group that walked 3742 miles, from LA to DC. Nine months later, I was completely transformed and committed to answering the question, “But, what can I do?”

There are a thousand stories about things I learned on The Great Peace March For Global Nuclear Disarmament but the short of it is this: There is always a solution, no matter what obstacles you see in front of you.

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What it takes to live a purposeful, satisfying life is courage and a willingness to let go of things that hold you back.

Learning Inside and Out

Living a very different life on the March taught me many things (I can shower in less than 3 minutes when required and tell you whether or not an 18-wheeler will survive the night on a patch of land after a rainstorm. It’s a specialized skill.  ;} ) but the thing that affected me the most was the power of interpersonal communication habits to support or destroy individual and group success.

Discovering this led me to the American University/National Training Laboratories Master of Science program in Organizational Development. There, I witnessed the tremendous wisdom and strength in every group, and discovered that I love uncovering it. I also learned that a lot of potential goes tragically untapped, too much of the time.

You’ve probably seen, in your own workplace… that organizational issues are just personal problems… amplified.

It became clear that, to be truly effective, I needed to work with people on a much deeper level, including all aspects of the human experience. While I don’t mention it unless the client does, spirituality, even lapsed religious views, affect how we feel about life and the world. This realization led to my next big life choice.

At Loyola College in Maryland, I earned a Master of Science degree in Pastoral Counseling. But much more than that, I learned the value of using the whole self in the healing process. There, I refined my lifelong passion for observation and language, while turning my world view into an unbeatable strategy for helping people to build the lives they really want.

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